Monday, January 1, 2018

Secrets of Hollywood

We are all beginners.

Recently on the "Cat and Kaehler Show" (name change in January to "Forever Fierce featuring Catherine and Co"), the subject was Beginners and how we are all beginners. It was a lightening bolt moment for me.


Go to Link: Catherine Grace O and guest Susan Honey Good

Did you think Harrison Ford knew how to use a bull whip before "Raiders of the Lost Ark"?  Or did you think Tom Hanks came up with that accent in "Forrest Gump"?  They did not.

The Art of Hollywood is make-believe.  We want you to believe Indiana Jones is an expert with that whip.  We want you to believe there is a real Forrest Gump.  It's that susupension of disbelief in order to tell a story.  And it works.  Except not in real life, because it's not really true.

I can tell you, months before those cameras roll, the actors are learning how not to look like a beginner.  And guess what, they are a beginner...you just don't see the behind-the-scenes flub-ups and bloopers, because...we have editors that make them look like pros.

When learning to drive a car, it's like, "Ahhh, which is the gas?!  Which is the brake?!  Oh God...a hill, what do I do? What do I do?!"  Fear.  Do you even think twice about it now?  In fact, you probably answer the phone, put on make-up, and eat your breakfast...all the while not thinking twice about the gas and the brake!  Fear removed.  My point, and the point of the radio show, is everyone starts somewhere...it's the journey of a thousand miles beginning with a single step.  It doesn't even need to be a big step, or even a small step, but maybe just a nudge in the direction you want to go.  A nudge!!

Fear is what usually keeps us from taking the very first teeny-tiny eensy-weensy baby step.  It's your Great Brain keeping you safe, insuring the survival of the human race.  You see, it's your fear based brain that doesn't know we aren't primative man, living in a cave, with a hungry sabertooth tiger outside.  That's scary.  Fear=Safety.  Our brains haven't changed that much in 11 million years!!  Somewhere your brain got the idea that you can't do it, check...fear sets in, check...and we scratch off the list what we can't do, double check.  Paralization.  "You're Welcome!!" , says your Fear-Based Brain.  But your Great Brain knows what you can and can not do because it sees other people doing it.  Your primative Fear-Based Brain doesn't get it.  This is where your two brains fight, causing stress and dis ease.  That's right.  Disease.  Your immune system does not funtion well under stress.

"When in panic, when in doubt, run in circles, scream and shout." -Julie Iiams

Really.  Yes, really.  When you are in panic, stress, or fear, your brain can not think clearly.  Can you think clearly when in that mindset?  No.  But can you remove the fear?  Yes!  Yes, you can.  Did you just say no?  If you say no, then your fear based brain shuts down.  Where as your Great Brain knows the truth; That you can do the thing you think you can not do!  And this is where your two brains fight, causing stress and dis ease...whatever the task at hand is (and you alone know that answer), because how in the world could such a thought pop into your Great Brain if it was not possible?  How?  That's the question you should be asking your great brain...How can I make this happen?  Baby steps is how and realizing we are all beginners!! All of us!! (That first step feels good, doesn't it...less fearful?)

"To understand the game much, you must play the game much" -Goethe

Even asking the question, "How?", you are moving the brain forward.  When you are driving the car, your Great Brain is asking "How?"  When washing the dishes, your Great Brain is asking, "How?"  When you are sleeping, your Great Brain is asking, "How?"  By engaging your Great Brain, you are putting to work a powerful tool to help you figure out the "How?"  Your Great Brain is a muscle, do you know that?  When you flex a muscle, it gets stronger.  When your Great Brain figures something out, it checks it off the list.  Allow your Great Brain to work effortlessly for you!  Let your Great Brain have something to chew on by asking the question "How?"

The body will fail before the brain.  So, if your brain tells your body to get up and move, it obeys.  Therefore, if you can go there in your mind...so will you go there in your body!!  You will see, because the fear of the unknown is gone, your Great Brain has figured out a baby step...trust your Great Brain.

Especially, right before you go to sleep.  Ask your Great Brain any question, even writing it down to be clear in your intent.  Go to sleep and let the butter melt.  Your Great Brain loves to figure things out...loves it...it's a form of survival.  Soon the answer, the baby step, will come to you.  Then you go with the next step...or the baby step...or the teeny-tiny eensy-weensy baby step...or the nudge from the Universe.

"The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones." -Confucius

How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at a time.  Some people prefer to start at the tail...some people think it's best to start at the trunk...me...the big toe, I guess.  The point is, you can do it one bite at a time.  

Now I'm learning how to operate a drone.


I'm a late bloomer.  I hope this finds you well. -julie
All photo credits are mine.

Monday, December 11, 2017

My Favorite Things

The Holidaze are upon us as the shoppers rush home with their treasures.  I like the feeling and the smells of the holidays, I just don't like the stress that comes with the shopping, the parking, and the crowds of pushy people.

That being said, I would like to highlight some items you can order right where you are, in your jammies in front of the computer.  Hopefully, these will make the season bright by ordering on-line and shipping right to your doorstep.



I love the smell of a fresh Christmas tree and Scentsicles ornaments will put anyone immediately in the Holiday spirit.
O' Christmas Tree by Scentsicles

And under $15, you can't afford NOT to hang a few of these in your tree as well so your entire home will smell like a Louisiana Pine Forest.  Really.  Make sure it's the "O' Christmas Tree", there are others, but this one smells the best.  
Amazon link here: Scentsicles O' Christmas Tree. 






The Cocktail Shaker Lip Gloss

Lancome makes this whimsical and effective lip gloss.  I love the little shimmers in the gloss and it makes a fun impact as a gift for one of your girlfriends.  This color is called "Boom Meringue" #313





Lots of other awesome messages too!

Mugs from Target!  They are the perfect size for hot chocolate, they stack, and the messages are awesome.  And at $5.99, it's a super nice way to tell all the people in your life that you care.  Check out the complete messages.  Link here:  Clay Art Stackable Mugs





...and it will NOT stain your teeth.
This is a Hollywood secret for public speakers and actress' to tint their gums pink making their teeth look super white. It's the perfect gift for that someone longing for the perfect smile.  Under $20.  Link here: Email Diamant Red Toothpaste






Soft and snuggly is the gift you are giving.


Pier One is having a big sale and if you are stuck as to what to give a loved one, this beautiful Snow Leopard Throw is the perfect solution.  It is soft and faux fur on one side and soft suede-like on the other.  The neutral colors will blend in well on anyone's couch and lap and who doesn't want to feel like a "Fierce" snow leopard in winter? 
On sale now $33. Link here: Faux Fur Snow Leopard Throw



For the techie in your life: a subscription to Lynda.com.  What is Lynda.com?  It is the most comprehensive site to find tutorials by qualified professionals there to explain, in the simplest of terms, how to: work a camera, learn photoshop, how to build a website, how to make creative content.  Basically, anything that has to do with a computer or apps.  The monthly subscription is $25.  That's unlimited access to all the information on all of your devices, so learn while waiting in line or at midnight when the house is quiet.  Oh, and if you don't like the teaching style of one professor, there are more choices!  You can subscribe one month and then not again for three months, then back for a month, there are no commitments and there is a trial to test if you like before you buy.  Link here: Lynda.com








Amazon Prime.  This is the gift that keeps on giving.  At about $8.25 a month (a yearly subscription costs $99) it is worth every penny if you do a lot of shopping on-line.  I have cat and dog food delivered because it's hard to find in stores, but easy on Amazon.  Two-day guaranteed free delivery is the hook, but really, Amazon Prime has so many other features that even if you don't shop on-line a lot, it's still worth it!  Amazon is coming up in the world of film making and their streaming content comes with the subscription.  Also, "cloud" storage.  I take a lot of pictures that are huge files, so having the storage through Amazon keeps them off my computer and keeps the computer running better.  Shopping for basics like t-shirts and socks is so easy, just click away and two days later you have the items.  No jockeying for a parking space, no looking through the shops, no lost receipt if you want to return the item.  Amazon has the easiest return policy.  If you love someone, this is the ultimate gift of time.  Link here: Amazon.com


I hope this helps and you are able to enjoy the Holidays the way they were meant to be celebrated, home, hearth, community.  Take a moment to realize that today is your gift, that's why it's called "The Present."

I hope this finds you well.
-julie


Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Meet Saumya and her great brain

Gratitude

A big thank you to Catherine Grace O'Connell whose vision to bring these two diverse demographics together is realized in this awesome campaign called "Bridging the Gap".

Mother, wife, and savvy businesswoman


One hundred Mid-lifers and one hundred Millennials are paired up to discover what it is that we have in common and what it is that makes us different.

How fortunate am I, then, to be a partnered with clever Saumya in this campaign!  She is like a gift, beautifully wrapped, mysterious on the inside, and open to anyone willing to discover.

Saumya customized her pumps by adding the pom

Don't mistake her soft feminine beauty for weakness.  I am discovering how fearless Saumya is. After revealing her desire to attend this years NewYorkFashionWeek...she made it happen.  She had a shoe design in mind and what did she do?  She realized her vision.


She designed these shoes!


She makes powerful memories for her family with love, cooking, and time.  She passionately honors her husband during Karwa Chauth by fasting the entire day to pray for the safety and longevity of her spouse.  Saumya, I forgot to tell you what an awesome mother you are. Your beautiful daughter will take the memories of afternoon tea parties with Mom, complete with cloth napkins and real china, with her for the rest of her life.


Yes, you did that.

I have learned that the future looks bright in the hands of Saumya.  (She's so smart and gorgeous)!



Sunny would be a good word to describe Saumya.


What I have learned from this campaign and from my partner....
The youth of today is weaned on the internet, information at their fingertips, and amazing digital games.  It's important to work together to find the "key to the next level" or the "secret menu" at Starbuck's, so it's no surprise that teamwork comes naturally in practical settings.  Because curiosity and discovery are second nature, Millennials don't like to be bombarded with a lot of information. They can and will find the answer, they know how to problem solve.

Saumya, you taught me patience and teamwork with your kindness, you taught me how to celebrate beauty with your blog and IG feed,  and you taught me that persistence and determination will get you where you need to go.

My hope for the other 99 Mid-lifers and 99 Millennials is a similar experience.  Maybe, with a
little acceptance and understanding, we can blur boundaries and learn a thing or two
from our counterparts.

Life Lesssons
Don't come from a place of fear.
Be patient, everything comes to you at the right time.
Listen to others
Be a Content Creator

Similarities
like high heels and wine
gluten free
both struggle with body image

Differences
I'm old?

Monday, May 8, 2017

Taking Care of Your Sheepskin Rug

And making it last a long time...

Did you know that if you take care of your sheepskin rug, it can last twenty years?  Did you also know that you can wash your sheepskin rug?  How about you can wash your sheepskin rug IN YOUR WASHING MACHINE?!!!!

Betcha didn't know that! 


You'll need these two products:

Sheepskin Rug Brush and Sheepskin Shampoo
(both items available on-line)
Put your rug in the washing machine on delicate cycle and follow
the directions on how much sheepskin shampoo to use.


It really came out white.
I put it outside to drip dry for the better part of the day. 
After it was just damp, I stuck it in the dryer on the lowest
heat setting and removed it an hour later.
That was easy.



The hard part was brushing out all the little curls.  You really have
to fold the rug back on itself to expose the roots in order to brush in 
quick little strokes and make the rug fluffy again.
You can see the left side is brushed and fluffy...


The brush didn't pull off much of the fur, 
so if your rug is falling apart, it may be too old to save.  
Sheepskin rugs have a shelf life of about twenty years...if you take care of it.  
The Sheepskin Shampoo kept the hide soft and conditioned, did a great job of cleaning it and made the rug look brand new again.


Sunday, April 23, 2017

Tools of the Trade Part 2

Hollywood Secrets

Really, I shouldn't be showing you this, but...


Wardrobe Rack
The on-set, behind-the-scenes, working wardrobe rack.  This cart holds many, many, many secrets.  Let's explore...




Grandma's Secret Wrinkle Remover
The iron is upstairs in the costume department, you forgot to plug in the steamer and the director is yelling for you on set.  This works so you can tomorrow.




Wet Ones
"I've never seen an actress make a mess!", said No One Ever.

Don't leave home without it, especially if you wear white or are an actress.



Topstick
This is wig tape, but it is used to keep your wardrobe in place.
It's how Jennifer Lopez kept that dress to stay!  It works well on the little peek-a-boo-space in-between the buttons on your fitted blouse.



Lift Kits, Secret Heels, or DIY sock wedge
This is a big secret.  I can't even say who uses them, so maybe I should say who doesn't use them...tall people and that ain't actors.  Life is short, you don't have to be.



Band-Aid Friction Block
Seriously, do not get any other brand.  Anywhere you feel a pinch, a rub, or a squeeze on your foot, rub on a little Friction Block and keep on dancing.  The secret has gotten out on this one and the product is now hard to find (usually in stock in the band-aid aisle at any CVS) and is expensive on-line.  If you can find it at CVS for under $10, buy it, it works.

All of these products can be found on-line.

I hope this finds you well.  Thanks for stopping by and leave a comment if you please.








Monday, March 20, 2017

Tools of the Trade Part 1

The Right Tool for the Job

Sometimes, when you are climbing a mountain, it's good to turn around and see 
how far you have come and enjoy the view.

My New Year's Resolution is to shop my closet.  I am actually surprising myself and doing really, well.  I did purchase a pair of rain boots because the other ones took a turn for the worse, and it was raining, and cold, and the wet toes thing wasn't working for me and the rain wasn't about to stop.


(Old sweater, t-shirt, jeans...new boots..they did keep my toes warm and dry)

One thing I am realizing, is that I have some great clothing in my closet!  Probably, the reason that the item sits, unworn, in the closet, is maybe a missing button, or the neck is scratchy because of a tag, or the item needs to be hemmed.  I am rediscovering the tools that I see the wardrobe gals keep with them at all times on set.


*The leather punch is great to make your belts fits perfectly.  
*A good pair of dedicated wardrobe scissors for cutting out scratchy tags(or all tags)! 
Don't be using it for kitchen or office items. Wardrobe only! 
Don't tell your kids where they are either.
*Fashion Tape, it's great for that pesky button-up blouse that plays peek-a-boo.
*Travel sewing kit, because sometimes it's nice to have it already threaded.
*Lint roller There's a white cat hair with your name on it.
*A good tailor It's their job to make you look good.

I am not saying that my New Year's Resolution is over.  I'm having fun seeing how far I can go shopping my closet.  In fact, I have discovered that maybe, just maybe, the 
destination isn't the reward, but the journey.

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Last Day of the First Month

I'm trying...

Well, how has your New Year's resolution coming along?


Well, I do like champagne, but I'm not a big drinker so cutting back on alcohol was an easy one.  Shopping, not so easy.


I found these shoes by mistake on-line!!!  I had to buy them.  And there goes my resolution. 

Well, here is the thinking...

They aren't real Valentino Rockstud heels!!! 


Maybe I'm wrong, but they look so good and I will wear them.
So, here's the lowdown...


I'm not sure the Valentino Rockstuds are worth the money, but definitely, they are made a lot better than the Kaitlyn Pan shoes that I found on Amazon.  Yes, Amazon!!!!!!!


You can see the stitching is a little off, but that's only if you get up close and personal.


The Valentino Rockstud has beautiful stitching and is more comfortable.

So, unless you knew the difference, you wouldn't be able to tell.  (Maybe my girlfriends can, but who is going to tell them?)

Shhhhhhhhh. :D